Are you always thinking about how you’re going to deal with your loved ones drinking now the Christmas season is getting closer? Do you feel as though you’re the one who has to deal with the consequences? Those who are living with or are close to an alcoholic feel a lot of frustration and stress. By changing your mindset and attitude, you can have a different perspective on the situation, and feel slightly empowered. 

 

This is something you cannot change yourself, the one suffering from alcoholism needs to understand and want change in their life first. Suggesting AA classes or alcohol rehab might seem like something you want to do, but we suggest for you to stop doing the following things for yourself first. 

 

  • Blaming yourself

 

It is pretty common for alcoholics to say things they don’t mean whilst they are drunk. You might have heard “I only drink because of you”, but don’t buy into this! If they are truly an alcoholic, they will be drinking whether you are around or not. 

 

  • Taking it personally

 

If an alcoholic promises you that they won’t drink again, don’t take it personally when they do. An alcoholic may have a change in their brain chemistry, they might not be in control of the decisions they are making. 

 

  • Trying to take control 

 

You might be thinking or telling yourself that there must be something you can do to sort the situation. However, the reality is, not even the person drinking can control it. 

 

When a person with an alcohol addiction reaches a point of crisis, support them and let them know you will always be there for them. Sometimes this is the point where they will finally admit they have a problem and seek help. 

 

  • Trying to cure it

 

Remember, alcoholism is a disease. You are not a doctor or healthcare professional, and even if you are, you are not responsible for treating your loved ones. 

 

You might be considering an intervention, but before you do this, you should look into seeking help from someone who is educated and has experience in talking to alcoholics. The NHS website has some contacts for alcohol-related issues. 

 

  • Covering it up

 

An alcoholic wouldn’t want you to tell people about how much they drink, but by covering up for them you will be playing right into their game of denial. Don’t bottle things up on your own, it is best to be open and honest about the problem. 

 

Unfortunately, some people with an alcohol addiction end up acting abusively due to their drinking problem, and this is no excuse so do not cover it up either. Abuse is never acceptable, no matter what the situation is.

 

This is particularly important when abuse takes place within a household with children. Experiencing abuse from a young age can cause lasting damages to a child’s psyche.